Make sure you calm down first, so you can use the thinking part of your brain.

S - Say the problem without blame. Avoid using words like "always" and "never".

Example: "The problem is that we both want top use the swing, but there's only one swing free."

T - Think of solutions. Brainstorm together possible solutions - be creative, but make sure they are safe and respectful for everyone involved.

Example: "We both can find a different thing to do," "We can ask the other person swinging if we can use the swing, so there will be two swings free," "We can take turns swinging."

E - Explore consequences for each solution.

For example: "If we both found something else to do, neither of us would be very happy," "The other person might not want to stop swinging," "If we take turns swinging, we could both do what we want."

P - Pick the best solution and make your plan.

For example: "Let's take turns. We can do rock, paper, scissors to see who gets to go first."